The 4 Elements of Love

Healthy romantic love consists of four main elements: commitment, connection, chemistry, and consistency.

Each element of love corresponds to one of the four alchemical elements—air, water, fire, and earth—all of which I collectively refer to as the Love Elements.

(Fun fact: each element also corresponds to a distinct dating skill domain.)

Let’s take a look at the connections.

Commitment

Air corresponds to the Love Element of commitment, which is a conscious decision to be partners along life’s journey. Air energy represents the gaseous state of matter and is equivalent to the mind, which thinks our thoughts. Our beliefs, values, and ability to effectively assess and communicate our needs and desires emit the Air frequency.

Connection

Water corresponds to the Love Element of connection, which requires the emotional capacity necessary to produce friendship. Water energy represents the liquid state of matter and is equivalent to the heart, which engenders our emotions. Our emotional availability, capacity for intimacy, and ability to trust ourselves and, therefore, trust others emit the Water frequency.

Chemistry

Fire corresponds to the Love Element of chemistry, which produces playfulness, passion, and physical attraction. Fire energy represents the plasma state of matter and is equivalent to the spirit, which animates our actions. Our sense of humor, degree of self-efficacy, and confidence in our abilities emit the Fire frequency.

Consistency

Earth corresponds to the Love Element of consistency, which is the sustainment of commitment, connection, and chemistry through time. Earth energy represents the solid state of matter and is equivalent to the body, which maintains our manifestations. Our sense of self-worth, ability to honor our boundaries, and capacity to be present in the moment emit the Earth frequency.

Understanding the Love Elements is crucial for recognizing romantic love, as all four elements are required for a healthy relationship to be sustainable through time.

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Amari Ice is a gay love coach, matchmaker, and hypnotherapist who helps successful singles master their romantic magic by developing their dating skills, healing subconscious patterns of self-sabotage, and enhancing their romantic magnetism so that love becomes inevitable. Take the free Dating Skills Quiz to discover your dating skill level.