Derrick & Vince’s Love Story
When we started working together, Derrick (on the right) came to me and said, “Amari, where are all the good guys and how do I find the one for me? I’ve tried all the dating sites and they’re all garbage. Everybody just wants sex; nobody seems truly interested in a relationship. Should I just accept that I’ll be single forever?”
Video Interview: Finding Love As Black Gay Men
During this juicy conversation (facilitated by award winning comedian Sampson McCormick) we dive deep into the core challenges Black gay men face in the dating scene, sexual versus romantic compatibility, and how to create more positive romantic outcomes.
The 4 Elements of Love
Healthy romantic love consists of four main elements: commitment, connection, chemistry, and consistency. Each element of love corresponds to one of the four alchemical elements (air, water, fire, and earth), all of which I collectively refer to as the Love Elements. Understanding the Love Elements is a crucial foundation for recognizing romantic love and compatibility. Let’s take a look at the connections.
How Gay Dating Coaching Works
As a gay dating coach, my primary objective is to help clients develop their dating skills, but to do that there are two things we need to know: 1) which areas need development and 2) how much development those areas need. Through working with over 1,000 singles, here’s the simple system I’ve developed for assessing both of those questions.
The Gay Dating Paradox: Why Men Struggle to Commit in Relationships
Dating fatigue is a common challenge many daters face. In this video, I explain the paradox of romantic choice, it's connection to dating fatigue, and why it's one of the primary causes of commitment issues.
How to Use Hypnosis for Love
When many people think of hypnosis, the first thing that likely comes to mind is a scary movie scene involving mind control. But as a certified hypnotherapist I can confirm that’s not how hypnosis really works. Here I define what hypnosis really is and how to use it to level up your love life.
Are You a Competent Dater?
Your overall level of dating competence is measured through four distinct domains: mindset, heartset, skillset, and habitset. Your competence within these domains allows you, as a dater, to perform certain abilities with ease. Let's explore how each domain applies to your romantic life.
Dating KPIs: 3 Keys to Relationship Success
If you have experience in any sort of corporate situation, you’ve probably heard of KPIs. The acronym stands for key performance indicators. Key performance indicators let us know when we’re on the right track toward meeting our business goals. Similarly, dating KPIs indicate when we’re on track for meeting our relationship goals.
The 4 Major Love Myths
Through the media and normal cultural conditioning, we’ve adopted many unhelpful romantic assumptions that precipitate challenges for us in relationships. I refer to these unrealistic cultural expectations as our collective “Relationship Mythology.”