Although I primarily help gay singles level up their dating skills, I also work with couples to master their romantic magic, and I occasionally work with celebrity matchmaking clients. One of my celebrity matches was between Matt and Daniel, the first successful gay couple on the Married at First Sight TV franchise.

Love isn’t a fairytale—it’s more like a video game, and the #1 reason anyone is single is because they’re trying to have a Level 25 relationship with Level 3 skills. Today we’re going to look at the major skill level differences and how they impact your romantic progress.

Your romantic attachment style is the pattern you consistently use to connect with others on an emotionally intimate level. Developed primarily from your childhood relationships with your parents/guardians, attachment styles generally form by the age of three and significantly impact our romantic relationships as adults.